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The Unflattering Truth about Coming Home

"Without diving headfirst into a thick, potentially lethal vat of particular details of my childhood…basically what I came to say was a revelation that just occurred to me, I don’t know why not sooner than right now but here it is:

Coming home is a warm, fuzzy feeling. After long periods spent elsewhere, the morning of my flight home is beautiful. Waking up is not a problem. And a disturbingly constant smile is upon my face that whole day. Coming home is like the softest, safest bear hug in the world. Coming home means returning the place of everything you believed in first, everything that made you strong enough to leave. Coming home is returning to the heart of love.

BUT here’s the thing though. Coming home also means returning to the crap that messed you up enough to want to get out of there in the first place. There are people in my life who continuously broke my spirit throughout my upbringing, not necessarily because they’re bad people but maybe just because they/he/she was just built that way. Sometimes there are people in your life that, completely against nature, you don’t get along with even though it is in your blood to get along with each other. Sometimes the people that love you most have absolutely no idea how to show it or think that by hating you they are loving you, it’s rather confusing isn’t it? Sometimes you forget that your first heart break was not of a romantic nature, but was because the person who’s sole responsibility is to protect you from hurt was hurting you. So you forget all of this when you leave. Or at least, when I left, I left most of this behind. It was like living in a house with no roof, and having the house confused as to why you were cowering under a table. It’s like coming home to this roofless house and having the house act as if it’s always had a roof, and this roofless house is hurt and trying to make you feel guilty for wanting to stay at another house (that has a roof) instead. I think…I think this metaphor is spent.

So that’s the unflattering truth about coming home. Home is where the best things happened, and where you forgot the worst things happened too."

- Jocelynrc
SO True.

Lovely Distractions

i cannot take this brr cold. and i know it could be worse, but i just cannot stay warm no matter how many layers or under how many blankets i am under.

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oh, why hello meloversary.

7 years !

i turn 21 tomorrow.

woo.

Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional.

“At some point, you have to make a decision. Boundaries don’t keep other people out. They fence you in. Life is messy. That’s how we’re made. So, you can waste your lives drawing lines. Or you can live your life crossing them. But there are some lines… that are way too dangerous to cross.”

Things that words cannot explain.

"Michelle is a tremendously strong person, and has a very strong sense of herself and who she is and where she comes from. But I also think in her eyes you can see a trace of vulnerability that most people don't know, because when she's walking through the world she is this tall, beautiful, confident woman.

There is a part of her that is vulnerable and young and sometimes frightened, and I think seeing both of those things is what attracted me to her. And then what sustains our relationship is I'm extremely happy with her, and part of it has to do with the fact that she is at once completely familiar to me, so that I can be myself and she knows me very well and I trust her completely, but at the same time she is also a complete mystery to me in some ways.

And there are times when we are lying in bed and I look over and sort of have a start. Because I realize here is this other person who is separate and different and has different memories and backgrounds and thoughts and feelings. It's that tension between familiarity and mystery that makes for something strong, because, even as you build a life of trust and comfort and mutual support, you retain some sense of surprise or wonder about the other person." -Barack Obama on wife Michelle

So beautiful and so much of what real love should be like.

ba de ba ba.

I love the potential in kids. They are so innocent and beautiful and untouched, and such smart creatures.

I love the pictures they draw me, the hugs they give me, the fact that they remember my name.

I love that they have grown accustomed to me and have known me to be familiar; I enjoy being someone consistent in their lives, someone they recognize and look up to. I like being a part of a kind of family outside of family.

When some of the more troublesome kids see me, there's this glimmer, this change in stature, and smile that escapes from their lips. There's this one specific little boy whom I was really hard on him the first time I had to deal with his attitude and disinterest in doing homework, so thereafter he warmed up to me..we have funny interactions.

Sometimes there's so much energy in the air that it is overwhelming, and I start feeling like I am suffocating. The screaming and the chaos that surrounds me drowns me out, almost like I am drowning in it, and we become this one giant mass. But the energy, you see, can be used for so many things that it is endless. Endless potential.

I love how lovely and simple they are. Their innocence is so sweet and makes me smile from a place so deeply inside, because it permeates not just what they feel and say, but how they think and see the world. On one particular pizza day, it was a little boy's first. After signing his and his sister's name off the list, he stared at his pizza and showed us how we could slice the pizza to have a share for both himself and his sister. Smiling, we assured him that she had her own serving, too. Sweet innocence..spilling over.

500 days of summer.

i absolutely loved 500 days of summer. i definitely, definitely recommend it so go watch it. now.

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you know,

sometimes i feel like we're all just bodies going in and out of eachother's lives, leaving imprints and taking pieces for ourselves until we're all scattered, like puzzle pieces that don't match up anymore.

between worlds.

There is one thing I am sure of about any place within the health field. This one thing is characteristic to human nature, and is often overcome by "hardening" the mind--or soul--so that one is unable to tell the difference anymore. It's what one experiences when he or she witnesses someone's brain being sawed open, someone's heart being poked, or someone choking from intubation. It's the initial instinct response to cringe, to feel pain for that person and to want to help appease that pain and to feel helpful in some way.

However, most often these responses are more deleterious than helpful, and in my experience I have had to first detach from the person on the table. Basically, to stop thinking about them as a person (in the social sense) and more as a human body that is in some way dysfunctioning and needs our help in order to survive. Probably not in the best words, but I'm interested in sharing this detachment process in order to reconnect with the more humane side of human beings, because we so often have to trail away from this path in order to do what needs to be done.

It's within this place that those in the health field seem to be walking the bridge or gap between the typical civilian world (where most of your loved ones are) and another less distinct world, a place where many have tread but often do not stay. It's hard to stay there--no one feels. Everything is about a beat, a sound, a smell, a look. We're like well-oiled machinery that, to me, seem to be desperately seeking for something more. A bigger picture in which we wish to be a part of something more than ourselves.

So we keep going. We take rigorous classes, we volunteer at the homeless shelter, at the hospital, or within clinics. We do research, we have jobs, we correspond with others. We lead clubs, join clubs, and attempt at a decent social life. We try to make it to the gym, to make time for family, to have a decent conversation or two before the thought of a responsibility guilts you into being consumed by it. It seems to all be for them (as in society, or your loved ones) but you're intangled in the mess because of your sacrifice.

The most frequent thought of my day is, "is this really what I want?", lost within the little things.

A little bit of cheese.

"The paradox of our time in history is that we have taller buildings but shorter tempers, wider Freeways, but narrower viewpoints. We spend more, but have less, we buy more, but enjoy less. We have bigger houses and smaller families, more conveniences, but less time. We have more degrees but less sense, more knowledge, but less judgment, more experts, yet more problems, more medicine, but less wellness.

We drink too much, smoke too much, spend too recklessly, laugh too little, drive too fast, get too angry, stay up too late, get up too tired, read too little, watch TV too much, and pray too seldom.

We have multiplied our possessions, but reduced our values. We talk too much, love too seldom, and hate too often.

We've learned how to make a living, but not a life. We've added years to life not life to years. We've been all the way to the moon and back, but have trouble crossing the street to meet a new neighbor. We conquered outer space but not inner space. We've done larger things, but not better things.

We've cleaned up the air, but polluted the soul. We've conquered the atom, but not our prejudice. We write more, but learn less. We plan more, but accomplish less. We've learned to rush, but not to wait. We build more computers to hold more information, to produce more copies than ever, but we communicate less and less.

These are the times of fast foods and slow digestion, big men and small character, steep profits and shallow relationships. These are the days of two incomes but more divorce, fancier houses, but broken homes. These are days of quick trips, disposable diapers, throwaway morality, one night stands, overweight bodies, and pills that do everything from cheer, to quiet, to kill. It is a time when there is much in the showroom window and nothing in the stockroom. A time when technology can bring this letter to you, and a time when you can choose either to share this insight, or to just hit delete...

Remember; spend some time with your loved ones, because they are not going to be around forever.

Remember, say a kind word to someone who looks up to you in awe, because that little person soon will grow up and leave your side.

Remember, to give a warm hug to the one next to you, because that is the only treasure you can give with your heart and it doesn't cost a cent.

Remember, to say, "I love you" to your partner and your loved ones, but most of all mean it. A kiss and an embrace will mend hurt when it comes from deep inside of you.

Remember to hold hands and cherish the moment for someday that person will not be there again.Give time to love, give time to speak! And give time to share the precious thoughts in your mind.

And always remember: Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away."

How do you know what's real and what's not?

You learn to appreciate the problems that have solutions..because not all of them do.

It's a human curse.

Everyone just wants to be a part of something bigger than themselves.

No seatbelt carcrash. It all happened so fast.

Like trying to clench water in my fists;
i thought we might still have a chance
but i think it may really be gone..
and i don't know how i feel yet,
besides alone.

lovely to meet you.

"We are all, I've found, in the process of trying to
understand how much of what we do is good, how much of it can be better."
-Atul Gawande

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loveandwar's picture
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Hi Christine, where have you been>

krystalmeri's picture
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:D !!!!

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iknowdumbppl's picture
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♥ Me too

iknowdumbppl's picture
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who do you miss?

ameko's picture
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i'm actually not as cool as you make me out to be. :/ hahaha

iheart's picture
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thank u:)
I usually shop at forever 21, american apparel, and urban outfitters:)

self's picture
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Thanks. :)

lets_skank's picture
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Cheers, this Melos for you!

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Happy meloversary. :)

ameko's picture
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happy melovee!

letteminakai's picture
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Anytime :)

letteminakai's picture
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Happy Meloversary!!!

P.S. Happy Belated Birthday!!!!!

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happy meloversary

iheart's picture
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happy belated birthday! i just spend the weekend in Vegas for my BFFs 21st :) i hope u had an awesome bday & i hope you're doing well
<3

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Happy Birthday!! :)

ameko's picture
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21! woot woot!

ameko's picture
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happy birthday :)

ameko's picture
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hello! thanks! i finished the paper at 10 the night before. :)

how is work and school and you with the boy?

loveandwar's picture
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is all going better for you christine? i hope so. you deserve someone who will put in as much as you, or even more.

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Oh god, yes.

xmagggieex's picture
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touch, touch, touch<3

xmagggieex's picture
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I fell hard for Tom.

ameko's picture
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btw, how have you been?

ameko's picture
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hahahahaha!

life definitely does not suck right now, yes.

ameko's picture
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hi.

i know. i'm so sorry. school has just been so hectic and full and overwhelming this semester. and i have been so honestly uninspired to write or post things. i need inspiration, but can't seem to find it anywhere! it's terrible and i hate it.

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it's in traditional chinese. :)

xbang__xbang__'s picture
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but of course not. everyone is so very deserving of that kind of love. someday...

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oh, christine. this made me well right up. :(

iheart's picture
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yup.:/
i hate the cal state system right now. i started yesterday, but becasue of the way its going right now, i might end up with one class! and my mind won't be as preoccupied as i want it to be ..

ameko's picture
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yes, you're so right. years ago, i never would have imagine that life would unfold the way it has for both of us. it's sad on the one hand, but it's also amazing on the other hand because you realize years from now, some of the most important things weighing on your mind won't matter. a lot has changed. what a thought to make you think, right? a lot really has changed.

byheart's picture
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Thankeee. :] I want a big old library someday

byheart's picture
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Thankeee. :] I want a big old library someday

byheart's picture
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Thankeee. :] I want a big old library someday

jmeb's picture
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Thank you soooooooo much! :) It was taken at Bryce Canyon National Park in Utah. It is one of the most beautiful places I have ever been. It's all these beautiful rock formations. :)

ameko's picture
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oh, i should add that from my favorites, i just hop around like a little linkrabbit.

ameko's picture
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i'm glad! actually, i love tumblr blogs. it's where i get some of my reads from. ^^

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I love 500 Days of Summer...it's my favorite movie of the summer, maybe year.

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such a cute movie!!!!

krystalmeri's picture
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<33333

:)

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